What is the “Got Toddlered” Craze?
If you are a parent, particularly with young children, chances are you have seen the “Got Toddlered” pictures floating around the Internet.
The pictures show parents before and after kids, with the end result poking fun at the negative effect parenthood has on a mom or dad’s appearance.
The gist is this: a man or woman was young and attractive before having kids. After parenthood, they become hot messes.
A Note for Those Submitting their Pictures
If you want to submit your before and after pictures to this Instagram account, that is your prerogative.
I won’t be submitting my pictures though, even though I have several “hot mess” pictures that would fit the bill.
Why I Won’t be Submitting any Pictures to the “Got Toddlered” Instagram account
As the mother of two toddlers, I am the perfect example of someone who “got toddlered.” But, I do not like the message these pictures send to the world. It is not ok to make fun of an overwhelmed mother or father’s appearance.
The thousands of people viewing these pictures have no idea what the backstory is for these parents.
Pregnancy does a number on every woman’s body, and it’s not something that a woman bounces back from immediately. Add in the stress and overwhelming insecurities of first-time parenthood, a touch of postpartum depression and/or anxiety, a lack of body confidence and self-esteem after the life-changing event that is motherhood, and the last thing on any mother’s mind is her physical appearance.
Just when a mother is at her lowest, that is when these pictures pop up and say, “Hey, wouldn’t it be fun to laugh at what a mess this woman looks like now?”
I have been the hot mess mom. On any given day, I still am. For almost two years, I did not care about my appearance. You could say I “let myself go” but it was more than that. I was too busy taking care of my kids to spend time on myself or put myself first.
Yes, that’s me with the glasses, ponytail, no makeup on, and ill-fitting shorts. (But also note my son and daughter, born 11 months apart, and my wonderful husband)
Why the “Got Toddlered” Pics are Innacurate
The “Got Toddlered” Pics don’t tell the real story.
Was mom up all night with a newborn? Or a teething infant? Does she have a sick child?
The truth is this: Give any mom some uninterrupted time to do her hair and makeup, and she can look like a million bucks.
That’s me, on Mother’s Day. The pic was taken around the same time as the previous “hot mess” pic. The only difference is that I took the time to straighten my hair, do my makeup, and take off my glasses.
It’s a lie to say that a woman can’t look attractive after having kids.
She can, and she will.
It may take her a bit of time. Maybe she will “let herself go” in those difficult first few years of motherhood. But eventually, she will find her sense of balance again.
Once that mother finds her stride, and figures out how to balance the demands of motherhood with her own desires and ambitions, the world better watch out.
Readers: What are your thoughts on the “Got Toddlered” pictures?